This was a fun way to take family photos. More laughs. Less stress.
For the last few years we’ve struggled with getting a great picture for our Christmas card. For a variety of reasons we haven’t been able to work with a photographer, because…
- The minimum order was way more Christmas cards than we needed and all the extras felt wasteful.
- We had unexpected medical expenses for us or one of our pets and decided we could do without pro photos for a year.
- And plain ol’ bad timing, like forgetting to book a session in advance of the holiday season.
We’ve tried a few different ways to DIY our family photos. A couple of years ago we set up a backdrop in the dining room and used a self-timer to snap the shots. They turned out pretty cute, but when using a timer or remote it’s tough to be relaxed and natural in the photo because you’re still the photographer.
Last year we were completely photo-less when the holidays rolled around. I ended up making a collage of photos from the year, but there wasn’t one single photo on the card with all of us in it.
So this year I was super excited when a neighbor and new friend asked us to do a family photo session swap. It was the best. We had fun, the kids had fun, and I think the photos speak for themselves.
Here’s how the family photo session swap worked:
We met up for a late brunch last Sunday near where we wanted to take photos. We decided to shoot along the waterfront in Hudson, WI. We knew there were a variety of options there for different backgrounds…from the fall leaves, the beach, the park, and the pier.

Don’t take yourselves too seriously. I love how this shot isn’t overly posed.
After brunch we spent about 45 minutes taking photos. We both had good cameras so we decided to shoot with both cameras. We tried to make sure the two people shooting were always very close together so no one was looking at the wrong camera. We had our camera stabilized on a tripod. The other camera was set for a fast shutter speed and we used it handheld. They also had a nice zoom lens which helped.

Get the action shots. Although this picture isn’t perfectly crisp, it captures a moment I will treasure forever.
The shoot was a lot of fun and there was no pressure at all. We just took a big stroll through the park and stopped to snap photos when we saw an interesting backdrop. In this one session, we captured fun on the beach, walking through the park, climbing trees, and a stroll along the pier. In each location we just traded off who was being photographed and who was behind the cameras.

Capture the candid shots. This is my fave of my husband making me laugh.
We took hundreds of shots between the two cameras. I know 200+ photos per family sounds like a ton, but as amateurs we wanted to make sure we got the shot. Thank goodness for digital cameras where it doesn’t cost anything but a little memory to take extra photos.

Try a variety of poses and backdrops to see what feels the most natural.
After the session, I offered to sort through and edit the best photos for both families, since I had Photoshop and use it regularly. Our neighbors downloaded the photos from their camera onto a flash drive. Then, I took our families photos off the flash drive, leaving only the originals of their family. After I finished editing the best photos I uploaded their edited photos back to the same flash drive with their originals.
This is the first time in a while I’ve been excited to order Christmas cards knowing we have so many great photo options to choose from…and they are all at our digital fingertips. Now to find a Christmas card that can showcase all the photos I want to use…
My college student has a friend with a good camera who was looking for excuses to use it. She was also a broke college student. I paid her $20/hr for a couple of hours one Sunday to take photos; great deal for both of us. Yes, we got 400+ shots and no most weren’t wonderful but I got enough that were.
This is brilliant Jackie!!! What a great idea to do a photo shoot with friends, with a professional photographer or not. What a great memory! We have one really outstanding family photo and it’s from my sister’s wedding, taken by her friend/photographer with my sister in her wedding dress standing there making us smile and laugh. Sessions with a photographer can be stressful but being surrounded with friends makes it painless!
Melissa,
Are you back?! Has it been a year already? So lovely to see your name in the comments section again.
And I forgot to mention–those are some awesome family photos of the Hernandez family!!!
I agree! Photo shoots with friends. I know that a lot of people have given up the family Christmas card greetings but I’m older now and with my college, high school friends and family and other friends who have moved on I look forward to those catch ups we send. I found a photo of my childhood great friend and family–and it is fun to compare for now the children have children!!! I’m glad you’ve found a great way to keep your tradition going. I just love all the photos. Who wouldn’t?!! Thanks for a great tip.
I’m already a huge fan of this site and your books, but OMG – this was the best idea ever! As soon as I read this post, I immediately sent it to some friends of ours who were lamenting the fact that they didn’t have any family photos for this year. We did a shoot this weekend and they turned out great! Doing shots with photographers are always so stressful but this was so much more fun. The kids were relaxed and the smiles we got were so natural! Thanks for yet another great post, Jackie. Your photos turned out beautifully BTW! XO
Julie,
That is so awesome! It’s such a treat to get your own family pictures AND help another family get theirs. You are totally right about the natural smiles…it’s so much easier for kids to smile amongst friends than a strange photographer.
So glad you could put this tip to use. We plan to do this a lot more (like multiple times a year).